Anger Management: How To Stay Calm Instead Of Losing Your Cool

Have you ever found yourself angry with people you care about and didn’t seem able to stop yourself? Do people who love you tell you that you have anger management issues? Have you lost some important relationships or created problems for yourself at work because you couldn’t seem to control your angry behavior? If this describes you, then you need to regain control and stop yourself from hurting others. The first thing to do is to recognize that you are choosing your anger. What? Choosing my anger? Why in the world would I do that? Well, there are several reasons people may choose anger. Let’s see which one best describes you. Some people use anger to intimidate others and subsequently …

How To Activate Your Personal Success

What do I mean by Activating Your Personal Success? As I’ve outlined in my book Awaken the Genius each one of us possesses inherent skills, abilities and resources. Skills are obvious these are things that you do better than everyone else around you, or at least as well. Abilities could be physical or mental in nature. Some people have the ability to do math, others have the ability to do art, as examples. Resources are our inner ability to handle and manage situations. A resource would be the skill to be patient when outside influences seem to be slow or difficult. Another resource might be the ability to transform anger into flexibility. With hypnosis you learn how to cultivate these …

How To Accelerate Your Personal Growth By Choosing What You Control

Do you know the difference between what you can control and what you can’t? Because if you don’t the stuff you can’t control will end up controlling you! In Stephen R Covey’s book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” he explains the difference between your “Circle of Influence” – the things that you CAN control and your “Circle of Concern” the things that affect you but you CAN’T control. In truth, as I’ve talked about in one of my previous articles “Are You In Control of Your Life” the only thing that you can truly control is yourself, your mind, control your choice of response to external inputs, and what you choose to do to persuade others to accept …

5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them

As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 37 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories – overt control and covert control. Overt control includes many forms of attack, such as blaming anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule. Covert control includes compliance, enabling, withdrawal, defending, explaining, lying and denying. Often a person at the other end of attack will respond with some form of covert control in an attempt to have control over not being …